Relational Purity~Friendships

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“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”Proverbs 18:24 

Relational purity should sound pretty simple; it’s  just keeping our relationships with others pure unto God. However, what do I mean by that?  Relational purity doesn’t always have to be a dating relationship between a boy and girl, it can be a friendship , or your relationship with your parents and siblings, and etc. But right now I’m just going to briefly cover friendships in this post because I think we hear enough about romantic relationships and not enough about how to be a better friend.

In Proverbs 27:17, it says:

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

img_1881So what do I mean when I say we should keep our friendships pure? What I love about Proverbs 27:17 is that is describes what our friendships are suppose to be: encouraging and uplifting. If you have “friend” that constantly belittles you, talks about you behind your back, pressures you to do the wrong things then that is a clear indicator that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Or if you are doing the same thing to your friend, then you need to reconsider your actions. Friends are there to build each other up, not break each other down. I love how the Message Bible further explains this verse,

“You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another.” 

I think the one of the ways we can keep our friendships pure is to keep God in the center. Even if your friend is not a Christian, we still have to live that set apart life from the world and show our light so that our friend can see a difference in us. I’m not telling you to preach to your friend, but just live the life and walk that walk of faith. Also continue to pray for them as well.

I have been best friends with both these girls since second grade. What I love about them is that they are always encouraging and look at the bright side of situations. They also push me to be my best and they know how to make me laugh! What I love about our friendship is that even when we have different views, and various personalities, we still love each other unconditionally. And I believe that how God wants our friendships to be because He loves us despite of it all. And of course, He is the greatest friend that any girl could have.

“Best friends are people you know you don’t need to talk to every day. You don’t even need to talk to each other for weeks, but when you do, it’s like you never stopped talking.”― Anonymous

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Read the rest of the PERMS in the following posts. Don’t worry, I am going to finish them.

Reblog: What Single Women/Girls can Learn from August Alsina.

I found this article on an online Christian Women website named EEW Magazine. It has great resources for young, single women as well.

Article By Sandra Holton:: EEW MAGAZINE Sex & SINGLES

Too many WOMEN have wife aspirations with side-chick ways.

22-year-old Def Jam R&B singer August Alsina—whose MUSIC EEW Magazine in no way endorses (*neither does HisGirl!) —made it clear why women need to clean up their act and image.

In a discussion on Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club,” Alsina, who is OPEN about his hit-it-and-quit-it ways, shared with DJ Envy, Charlamagne tha God and Angela Yee his thoughts on why he often treats women as sex objects—both in life and on records.

“This is what you want. This is what you show me as a lady. So this is what you want. This is what you put on Instagram,” he explained of women who sexually tease men with seductive photos and essentially campaign for the side-chick or on-the-road-groupie position.

During his candid RADIO interview, Alsina let listeners inside his world, speaking about women that happily give their bodies up with no strings attached.

August Alsina stops by Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club”

Although he did not lecture anyone or attempt to convert their BEHAVIORS in any way, Alsina’s incidental thought-provoking candor should not be ignored.

Ladies, more and more, are posting freaky images online, hoping to snag a man. While they may, in some cases, get the guy alright, it likely won’t be the right kind of guy.

The men who troll the Internet for some action, typically have no plans to take that woman HOME to momma, or put a ring on it. And if he does “wife her,” chances of him being faithful are slim to none.

“This is who you present yourself to be,” Alsina CONTINUED, “so no I’m not singing, ‘I want to love you baby!’—no, I don’t!”

He does, however, want to have sex with you and then move on.

But is that what women want nowadays? Most will verbally, with their mouths, say no, all the while visually, with their IMAGE, saying yes.

Alsina’s comments are a strong reminder of what Lincoln UNIVERSITY President Robert R. Jennings said this summer.

“Men treat you, treat women, the way women allow us to treat them. And let me let you in on another little secret. We WILL use you up if you allow us to use you up,” he pointed out.

When it comes time for us to make that final decision, we’re going to go down the hall and marry that girl with the long DRESS on.julianne-hough-phone-sex That’s the one we’re going to take home to Mom,” he said.
The lesson to be learned? Don’t use your sexuality as bait, because what you wind up reeling in probably won’t be what you really want.

So what did you think about this article? Do you agree? Disagree? Have any other thoughts about this subject? Comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts.

He Loved Us First

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Well, Valentine’s Day was yesterday…one of my favorite holidays! Not just because it’s my birthday (okay, maybe a little), but because it reminds me how important love is. Many think that love is just a feeling, something that comes or goes when you want it too. But that is not true love. Love is what Jesus did on the cross thousands of years ago. When we despised Him, ridiculed Him, turned our backs on Him, put other loves before Him…He still looked upon us with a love with no restrictions and willing allowed Himself to be nailed on a tree to save us from our own corruption. That was true love. Without love we are nothing and we have nothing. We cannot live without it. That is why Jesus’s sacrifice should push us to love, even when we don’t feel like it or want to show loves who we think are unworthy. But we have to remember that we are unworthy of God’s love but He showers it over us everyday. Paul gives us a great demonstration what love is in 1 Corinthians and how we should love others.

If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

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Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

8-10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Message Bible)

 

More than Just Sex…

Purity is so much more than just abstaining from sex (though that is a great start). It is living our lives pure and holy unto the Lord. It is the way we think, the way we dress, and even the way we act even when we think no one is looking (even though God sees everything). Many people may dress modestly but are still not living a pure life. Purity means “freedom from anything that debases [reduce in quality or value], contaminates, pollutes” (dictionary.com).

Is there anything in your life that is polluting you? Even some small things that we may think is nothing such as lying, gossiping, being jealous, telling someone off, or pushing God aside can pollute our lives. As my pastor always says, “It’s the small foxes that destroys the vines.” (found in Song of Solomon 2:15)

We are not perfect, I can testify to that, but do not allow that to be an excuse to what is wrong on purpose. There is always something we all (yes and me!) can work on so that we can become more like Christ.

“Whoever says he abides in [Christ] ought to walk in the same way in which He walked.”~1 John 2:6

That is our job as Christians–not to think we are more holy or better than someone else– but to be more like Jesus! When people begin look at us walking down school hallways, on our jobs, in the grocery store, or in the even park,  they won’t see us…but the God in us. His love, His mercy, His grace, His power in our lives. That is how lives are changed. Not by what we preach, but the lives we live if we walk by what we preach…including me. The world is looking at us, what are you going to show them?

“Psalm 119:9ESV “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your Word.”

~HisGirl