Reblog: What Single Women/Girls can Learn from August Alsina.

I found this article on an online Christian Women website named EEW Magazine. It has great resources for young, single women as well.

Article By Sandra Holton:: EEW MAGAZINE Sex & SINGLES

Too many WOMEN have wife aspirations with side-chick ways.

22-year-old Def Jam R&B singer August Alsina—whose MUSIC EEW Magazine in no way endorses (*neither does HisGirl!) —made it clear why women need to clean up their act and image.

In a discussion on Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club,” Alsina, who is OPEN about his hit-it-and-quit-it ways, shared with DJ Envy, Charlamagne tha God and Angela Yee his thoughts on why he often treats women as sex objects—both in life and on records.

“This is what you want. This is what you show me as a lady. So this is what you want. This is what you put on Instagram,” he explained of women who sexually tease men with seductive photos and essentially campaign for the side-chick or on-the-road-groupie position.

During his candid RADIO interview, Alsina let listeners inside his world, speaking about women that happily give their bodies up with no strings attached.

August Alsina stops by Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club”

Although he did not lecture anyone or attempt to convert their BEHAVIORS in any way, Alsina’s incidental thought-provoking candor should not be ignored.

Ladies, more and more, are posting freaky images online, hoping to snag a man. While they may, in some cases, get the guy alright, it likely won’t be the right kind of guy.

The men who troll the Internet for some action, typically have no plans to take that woman HOME to momma, or put a ring on it. And if he does “wife her,” chances of him being faithful are slim to none.

“This is who you present yourself to be,” Alsina CONTINUED, “so no I’m not singing, ‘I want to love you baby!’—no, I don’t!”

He does, however, want to have sex with you and then move on.

But is that what women want nowadays? Most will verbally, with their mouths, say no, all the while visually, with their IMAGE, saying yes.

Alsina’s comments are a strong reminder of what Lincoln UNIVERSITY President Robert R. Jennings said this summer.

“Men treat you, treat women, the way women allow us to treat them. And let me let you in on another little secret. We WILL use you up if you allow us to use you up,” he pointed out.

When it comes time for us to make that final decision, we’re going to go down the hall and marry that girl with the long DRESS on.julianne-hough-phone-sex That’s the one we’re going to take home to Mom,” he said.
The lesson to be learned? Don’t use your sexuality as bait, because what you wind up reeling in probably won’t be what you really want.

So what did you think about this article? Do you agree? Disagree? Have any other thoughts about this subject? Comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts.

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Lies Girls Believe #5 “I’ve done too much that God can’t forgive me.”

Lies Girls Believe #3

“I’ve done too much that God can’t forgive me.” 

Romans 5:8 says“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

We have sinned or done something that we regret terribly. Many times when we make a mistake, others tend to judge and label us based on our past. However, with God all things are made new. There is nothing that can keep you away from the love of Christ. He loves us so much even before we were even born He willing gave up His own life so that we can be brought blameless before Him one day. We don’t have to wait until we’re “perfect” before God can forgive us. The verse above says it all. Before we even thought about God, He died for our sins so we can become guiltless. Every time we repent (which means to make a complete turn around from our sin) to God, He wipes away every wrong we done and forgets about it as if we had never committed anything. I know that many times that we feel so unworthy to receive God’s forgiveness, but we are unworthy to even deserve His love. But that’s just the beauty of grace. God’s grace!

Lies Girls Believe #4″I need a boyfriend! Everyone else has one!”

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Lies Girls Believe #4:

“I need a boyfriend! 

Everyone else has one!”

Even though I haven’t dated yet, I can say that I thank the Lord that my parents have restricted me not to, especially when I look around at my peers. Boys are not bad, and not every boy just wants to have sex with you, but having boyfriend can be distracting especially at our age. We should be focusing on our grades, on our future careers, and trying to have a deeper relationship with God. I know it seems cute to have someone to hold your hand, to walk you to class, and give you compliments…but trust me it’s not worth it in the long run. You are giving bits and pieces of your heart to someone who will most likely not walk you down the aisle. How disappointed it would be to not be able to love your future husband because most of your heart has been given away to others.
If you really want to be in a relationship so bad, the beset relationship you can have right now is with God! Trust me, you don’t have to worry about breakups, heart breaks, boy love-couple-images-45-1024x807drama, or ex-girlfriend drama either! He’s yours exclusively forever and ever! He knows how to treat a girl with respect and like a princess because you are one! So don’t allow any and every boy has a piece of you just so that you can  become like those girls in chick flicks. (It’s called Hollywood…almost everything in Hollywood is fake) You are a princess and God has already set out your Prince Charming to meet you!

Just be patient!

 

Lies Girls Believe #5: “Sticks and stones…”

Lies Girls Believe #5

“Sticks and stones may break my bones by words will never hurt me.”

Words hurt

Words hurt

Just one word for that…OUCH! It sounds like a cute little saying, especially when you don’t want others to see how their words really affect you, but it is one of the WORSE lies ever told. Words do hurt …or heal. It is our choice on how we use them. Our tongue is the toughest muscle in our bodies. With it so many people have been destroyed and others encouraged or even inspired with it. We decide whether to build someone up or tear them down with our words. We can draw someone to Christ or lead them further away from Him. Our words do matter.

But what happens when someone else tries to tear us down?

We can even hurt ourselves with our own words when we allow self-doubt and low self esteem overwhelm us.

“I’m not pretty enough”

“I will never be as good as _____”

“I’m so stupid.”

I have wounded myself various times from my own tongue. I believed the lies of the enemy instead of the truth of my Father. However, I’m glad God changed my way of thinking and opened my eyes. Sometimes those same lies try to reach me again, yet now I am armed with the Word of God. And that is our weapon! It is so important….no VITAL to know the Word of God for yourself. Don’t wait until Sunday morning to pick up your Bible and wait for the Pastor to speak life to you. Your pastor will not always be there with you when you are in your darkest moments, but Jesus will. God may not speak to you in an audible, loud voice in the sky, nevertheless He does speaks to your heart through the Word…His love letter to you. God is always speaking but we are not always listening. The Bible is our defense and weapon against the enemy’s lies and tricks.

Ephesians 6:16-17 says, “In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

The devil is actually afraid of us, the Children of God, because we have the Most High, the King of Kings, the Creator inside of us. The enemy is even more frightened when we actually know and LIVE the Word. So a person could talk smack about and to you all day long saying: 

  • “You’ll never be anything.”
  • “You are so ugly.”
  • You should kill yourself.”

But when you have God’s words in your heart then you will know that God says:

  • For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 ESV)
  • For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. (Psalm 139:13-14 ESV)
  •   I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the Lord. (Psam 118:17 KJV)

So no person in this world can make you feel miserable unless you allow it. That is also our choice. Sure it will hurt, however, you do not have to allow it to soak into your heart and believe it. I am still learning this and allowing God’s words to seep into my heart. 

Just remember this: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” (Proverbs 18:21) So will you speak life or death today? Will you believe the lie or the Truth?