Reblog: How to Respond to People Who Criticize You for Waiting Until Marriage

I just read this post from Project Inspired, a great Christian website for young women, and I just had to share this post! Since I started this #TrueLoveWaitsPledge Campaign, I know many people will try to criticize your decision to wait. I was even told that waiting until marriage was unrealistic. However, I know so many people who are waiting and so can you! So be encouraged

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Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Written by Kytia Lamour
Posted on July 8, 2015 at 12:00 pm
I waited until I was married to have sex. In fact, I wore a purity ring for years that was eventually replaced by my engagement ring because I was sure that decision was the right one for me. It’s important to make this choice for yourself and not judge other people who haven’t done the same. I definitely had the desire to be intimate, as any young woman with a pulse might, so I was constantly asked why I was saving my virginity for my future husband.

This subject is a very personal one, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for whatever you choose to do. However, if you feel the need to respond, it’s best to do it with the spotlight on yourself and your personal convictions instead of simply saying “Everyone should do this because God wants us to.” Keeping God’s commands is very important, but it’s also good to know and share the benefits of abiding by His word.
The next time someone raises an eyebrow at your moral compass and offers these remarks, consider responding in the following ways.

“It’s not a big deal.” It most definitely is a big deal. There are plenty of people who will fall into one-night stands and follow their body’s desires, but not many of them will tell you that you are giving a piece of yourself to anyone you are intimate with. You might want to save those pieces for your future spouse so that he will have that prize for himself.
“You’re missing out on a lot of great guys you could be with.” This should be obvious, but most of us don’t think about it until it’s too late. Not everyone is honest or knowledgeable about possible STDs they are carrying. Having multiple partners increases your risks of contracting something you may end up suffering with for the rest of your life, and you could be putting your future spouse at risk without even knowing it.

“Don’t you think you’re being old-fashioned?” Times change, but God’s values never will. He has asked us to keep our marriage bed undefiled, and that request doesn’t come with an expiration date. Being “old-fashioned” isn’t always a bad thing, and there are reasons why generations before us held onto certain traditions and had long-lasting marriages because of it.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

“You already know he’s the one you’re going to marry, so there’s no need to wait.” Whoever you decide to have a relationship with should respect your decision, and that includes “The One.” If a guy pursues you in hopes of getting you into his bed without marrying you, his motives are not in the right place and he is not worthy of your time.

“What if you get married and find out you’re terrible in bed?” I’ve always been from the school of thought that if God will bring you a husband, He will make sure that you are compatible in every way. Your sex life is something you both will have to work at whether or not you are a virgin, so there’s no need to worry unnecessarily about a lack of fulfillment in the bedroom.
It is possible to start a new life of abstinence if you’ve already had sex before marriage. God does not condemn those who have, and it’s never too late to start a clean slate and honor your body in a way that is pleasing to the Lord.
Do you think it’s important to wait for marriage? How do you face criticism for the choice that you’ve made?

So what do you think of this post?

Relational Purity~Friendships

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“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”Proverbs 18:24 

Relational purity should sound pretty simple; it’s  just keeping our relationships with others pure unto God. However, what do I mean by that?  Relational purity doesn’t always have to be a dating relationship between a boy and girl, it can be a friendship , or your relationship with your parents and siblings, and etc. But right now I’m just going to briefly cover friendships in this post because I think we hear enough about romantic relationships and not enough about how to be a better friend.

In Proverbs 27:17, it says:

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

img_1881So what do I mean when I say we should keep our friendships pure? What I love about Proverbs 27:17 is that is describes what our friendships are suppose to be: encouraging and uplifting. If you have “friend” that constantly belittles you, talks about you behind your back, pressures you to do the wrong things then that is a clear indicator that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Or if you are doing the same thing to your friend, then you need to reconsider your actions. Friends are there to build each other up, not break each other down. I love how the Message Bible further explains this verse,

“You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another.” 

I think the one of the ways we can keep our friendships pure is to keep God in the center. Even if your friend is not a Christian, we still have to live that set apart life from the world and show our light so that our friend can see a difference in us. I’m not telling you to preach to your friend, but just live the life and walk that walk of faith. Also continue to pray for them as well.

I have been best friends with both these girls since second grade. What I love about them is that they are always encouraging and look at the bright side of situations. They also push me to be my best and they know how to make me laugh! What I love about our friendship is that even when we have different views, and various personalities, we still love each other unconditionally. And I believe that how God wants our friendships to be because He loves us despite of it all. And of course, He is the greatest friend that any girl could have.

“Best friends are people you know you don’t need to talk to every day. You don’t even need to talk to each other for weeks, but when you do, it’s like you never stopped talking.”― Anonymous

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Read the rest of the PERMS in the following posts. Don’t worry, I am going to finish them.

Reblog: What Single Women/Girls can Learn from August Alsina.

I found this article on an online Christian Women website named EEW Magazine. It has great resources for young, single women as well.

Article By Sandra Holton:: EEW MAGAZINE Sex & SINGLES

Too many WOMEN have wife aspirations with side-chick ways.

22-year-old Def Jam R&B singer August Alsina—whose MUSIC EEW Magazine in no way endorses (*neither does HisGirl!) —made it clear why women need to clean up their act and image.

In a discussion on Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club,” Alsina, who is OPEN about his hit-it-and-quit-it ways, shared with DJ Envy, Charlamagne tha God and Angela Yee his thoughts on why he often treats women as sex objects—both in life and on records.

“This is what you want. This is what you show me as a lady. So this is what you want. This is what you put on Instagram,” he explained of women who sexually tease men with seductive photos and essentially campaign for the side-chick or on-the-road-groupie position.

During his candid RADIO interview, Alsina let listeners inside his world, speaking about women that happily give their bodies up with no strings attached.

August Alsina stops by Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club”

Although he did not lecture anyone or attempt to convert their BEHAVIORS in any way, Alsina’s incidental thought-provoking candor should not be ignored.

Ladies, more and more, are posting freaky images online, hoping to snag a man. While they may, in some cases, get the guy alright, it likely won’t be the right kind of guy.

The men who troll the Internet for some action, typically have no plans to take that woman HOME to momma, or put a ring on it. And if he does “wife her,” chances of him being faithful are slim to none.

“This is who you present yourself to be,” Alsina CONTINUED, “so no I’m not singing, ‘I want to love you baby!’—no, I don’t!”

He does, however, want to have sex with you and then move on.

But is that what women want nowadays? Most will verbally, with their mouths, say no, all the while visually, with their IMAGE, saying yes.

Alsina’s comments are a strong reminder of what Lincoln UNIVERSITY President Robert R. Jennings said this summer.

“Men treat you, treat women, the way women allow us to treat them. And let me let you in on another little secret. We WILL use you up if you allow us to use you up,” he pointed out.

When it comes time for us to make that final decision, we’re going to go down the hall and marry that girl with the long DRESS on.julianne-hough-phone-sex That’s the one we’re going to take home to Mom,” he said.
The lesson to be learned? Don’t use your sexuality as bait, because what you wind up reeling in probably won’t be what you really want.

So what did you think about this article? Do you agree? Disagree? Have any other thoughts about this subject? Comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts.

Lies Girls Believe #4″I need a boyfriend! Everyone else has one!”

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Lies Girls Believe #4:

“I need a boyfriend! 

Everyone else has one!”

Even though I haven’t dated yet, I can say that I thank the Lord that my parents have restricted me not to, especially when I look around at my peers. Boys are not bad, and not every boy just wants to have sex with you, but having boyfriend can be distracting especially at our age. We should be focusing on our grades, on our future careers, and trying to have a deeper relationship with God. I know it seems cute to have someone to hold your hand, to walk you to class, and give you compliments…but trust me it’s not worth it in the long run. You are giving bits and pieces of your heart to someone who will most likely not walk you down the aisle. How disappointed it would be to not be able to love your future husband because most of your heart has been given away to others.
If you really want to be in a relationship so bad, the beset relationship you can have right now is with God! Trust me, you don’t have to worry about breakups, heart breaks, boy love-couple-images-45-1024x807drama, or ex-girlfriend drama either! He’s yours exclusively forever and ever! He knows how to treat a girl with respect and like a princess because you are one! So don’t allow any and every boy has a piece of you just so that you can  become like those girls in chick flicks. (It’s called Hollywood…almost everything in Hollywood is fake) You are a princess and God has already set out your Prince Charming to meet you!

Just be patient!