Unfulfilled now Filled

Our society is obsessed with physical appearances that it seems to consume our everyday lives from the latest weight loss diet and to makeovers but all of that still leaves many so empty inside. It is an emptiness that haunts so many people each day, but yet we tend to put on a facade to make it seem as if everything is okay.

unknownWhen I am on social media, I find it so interesting how we attempt to put forth the best show for the world to see, but there is so much more going on behind the scenes. I never knew how so many people are incomplete and undone on the inside, yet the outward appearance is so made up to make it seem that everything is fine.

And that was me.

I never wanted others to know what I truly felt. Everyone always thought I was a happy and nice girl when inwardly I felt like a monster. I never let anyone come in because I did not want anyone to see the real me. I strived so hard to be perfect but it felt that every move I made would take me four steps backward. The problem was I was trying to fix myself on my own but I was just making a huge mess. I struggled for the longest with my self-esteem, using my accomplishments as a shield for my insecurities. I was always trying to be what I thought others wanted me, to think the way society wanted me to think instead of being who God made me to be.

It wasn’t until I had to face myself and finally stopped trying to please everyone else besides God. I had to go to God with my struggles and it was not until then did I finally find peace, comfort, and received real deliverance.

imagesMy cry over and over was that God would just make me over. I did not want to be what society wanted me to be. I did not want to be who I thought I should be. I wanted to really be a new creature in Christ where all things would have passed away. I just wanted God to strip everything that was not like Him and to put on more of His attributes. Until I stopped trying to go my own way and finally completely surrendered to God did I find that God was the only one who could fill the empty void in me. No more feelings of unworthiness or feeling unloved because I know where my source comes from now. I am not saying that I don’t have days when those thoughts may come to my mind, but now I don’t have to face them alone anymore. Instead, I can just go straight to my loving Father and know that He has me wrapped in His arms.
Just like the woman at the well in the Bible (John chapter 4), she was looking for something to fill the void inside of her only to find out that Jesus was the only One who could satisfy her longing for love and acceptance. She looked in all of the wrong places only to find out that man was not enough. Our hearts were created by God and were only made to be filled by Him. Food, people, drugs, money, relationships, etc. will never be enough. I love what Jesus says to the woman at the well when He meets her, saying

But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. (John 4: 14)

That was what I was also missing in my life. I desperately needed God to fill my life. Yes, I was already a Christian but I did not allow God to fully fill my life. It seemed that I held part of myself in reserve, but I was only keeping myself back from being fulfilled. I was like Israel in Jeremiah 2:13, “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”

But I don’t have to be that way anymore and neither do you. Just admit to God that you need Him, ask Him to fill you up, and surrender your doubts and your fears to God and allow God to fill your heart.

I had to learn that having God to fill you should be continuous, not just a one-time prayer. There are days where you will feel drained ororiginal
that the weight of the world is on your shoulders. There will be  other times when the sun is shining bright and that you will feel that everything is fine. But no matter whether you are going through a sunny or dark season in your life, you will always need God. David says it best in Psalms 63:1

“You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you; I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water.” Psalm 63:1 (NIV)


Reblog: What Single Women/Girls can Learn from August Alsina.

I found this article on an online Christian Women website named EEW Magazine. It has great resources for young, single women as well.

Article By Sandra Holton:: EEW MAGAZINE Sex & SINGLES

Too many WOMEN have wife aspirations with side-chick ways.

22-year-old Def Jam R&B singer August Alsina—whose MUSIC EEW Magazine in no way endorses (*neither does HisGirl!) —made it clear why women need to clean up their act and image.

In a discussion on Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club,” Alsina, who is OPEN about his hit-it-and-quit-it ways, shared with DJ Envy, Charlamagne tha God and Angela Yee his thoughts on why he often treats women as sex objects—both in life and on records.

“This is what you want. This is what you show me as a lady. So this is what you want. This is what you put on Instagram,” he explained of women who sexually tease men with seductive photos and essentially campaign for the side-chick or on-the-road-groupie position.

During his candid RADIO interview, Alsina let listeners inside his world, speaking about women that happily give their bodies up with no strings attached.

August Alsina stops by Power 105.1 FM’s “The Breakfast Club”

Although he did not lecture anyone or attempt to convert their BEHAVIORS in any way, Alsina’s incidental thought-provoking candor should not be ignored.

Ladies, more and more, are posting freaky images online, hoping to snag a man. While they may, in some cases, get the guy alright, it likely won’t be the right kind of guy.

The men who troll the Internet for some action, typically have no plans to take that woman HOME to momma, or put a ring on it. And if he does “wife her,” chances of him being faithful are slim to none.

“This is who you present yourself to be,” Alsina CONTINUED, “so no I’m not singing, ‘I want to love you baby!’—no, I don’t!”

He does, however, want to have sex with you and then move on.

But is that what women want nowadays? Most will verbally, with their mouths, say no, all the while visually, with their IMAGE, saying yes.

Alsina’s comments are a strong reminder of what Lincoln UNIVERSITY President Robert R. Jennings said this summer.

“Men treat you, treat women, the way women allow us to treat them. And let me let you in on another little secret. We WILL use you up if you allow us to use you up,” he pointed out.

When it comes time for us to make that final decision, we’re going to go down the hall and marry that girl with the long DRESS on.julianne-hough-phone-sex That’s the one we’re going to take home to Mom,” he said.
The lesson to be learned? Don’t use your sexuality as bait, because what you wind up reeling in probably won’t be what you really want.

So what did you think about this article? Do you agree? Disagree? Have any other thoughts about this subject? Comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts.

Lies Girls Believe #5 “I’ve done too much that God can’t forgive me.”

Lies Girls Believe #3

“I’ve done too much that God can’t forgive me.” 

Romans 5:8 says“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

We have sinned or done something that we regret terribly. Many times when we make a mistake, others tend to judge and label us based on our past. However, with God all things are made new. There is nothing that can keep you away from the love of Christ. He loves us so much even before we were even born He willing gave up His own life so that we can be brought blameless before Him one day. We don’t have to wait until we’re “perfect” before God can forgive us. The verse above says it all. Before we even thought about God, He died for our sins so we can become guiltless. Every time we repent (which means to make a complete turn around from our sin) to God, He wipes away every wrong we done and forgets about it as if we had never committed anything. I know that many times that we feel so unworthy to receive God’s forgiveness, but we are unworthy to even deserve His love. But that’s just the beauty of grace. God’s grace!

Lies Girls Believe #4″I need a boyfriend! Everyone else has one!”


Lies Girls Believe #4:

“I need a boyfriend! 

Everyone else has one!”

Even though I haven’t dated yet, I can say that I thank the Lord that my parents have restricted me not to, especially when I look around at my peers. Boys are not bad, and not every boy just wants to have sex with you, but having boyfriend can be distracting especially at our age. We should be focusing on our grades, on our future careers, and trying to have a deeper relationship with God. I know it seems cute to have someone to hold your hand, to walk you to class, and give you compliments…but trust me it’s not worth it in the long run. You are giving bits and pieces of your heart to someone who will most likely not walk you down the aisle. How disappointed it would be to not be able to love your future husband because most of your heart has been given away to others.
If you really want to be in a relationship so bad, the beset relationship you can have right now is with God! Trust me, you don’t have to worry about breakups, heart breaks, boy love-couple-images-45-1024x807drama, or ex-girlfriend drama either! He’s yours exclusively forever and ever! He knows how to treat a girl with respect and like a princess because you are one! So don’t allow any and every boy has a piece of you just so that you can  become like those girls in chick flicks. (It’s called Hollywood…almost everything in Hollywood is fake) You are a princess and God has already set out your Prince Charming to meet you!

Just be patient!