Why Christians Shouldn’t Ignore #BlackLivesMatter

I started this blog, not for high ratings from people but rather to share my heart and the love of God with others instead of staying silent. In recent events, the news has been pouring out horrid details of the ruthless deaths of so many young black men and women. Although this has been occurring for years, many have believed that racism ended with the Civil War or when the Jim Crow Laws were abolished. Yet that is not true. Instead, the heat has been raised even higher than before whether we want to believe it or not. It took l_shutterstock_multiracial_1200x675the news stations the longest to help expose what was happening in our black communities and it was not until so civilians used social media to pour out the sad details before the nation would adhere to the truth.

Racism still haunts our nation today. Even in many of our churches are still segregated. And we as Christians should not ignore that. The #BlackLivesMatter was not started to say that only black lives matter, but for so long black lives did not matter to the world. It forced people to finally realize that we are still fighting racism in our nation and made many to look at their own actions.

Instead of debating whether #BlackLivesMatter or not, we as the Body of Christ should the forerunners in aiding our fellow brothers and sisters who have been hurting for so long. Instead of debating whether a person deserved to be executed or not, we need to remember that there is a mother crying for the lost of her chilblack-and-white-love-people-Favim.com-413552.jpgd. A son or daughter just lost their father or mother on the streets. Instead of debating we need to be praying. Instead of judging we need to be loving one another. Do not pray to see who is right or wrong but that as the Body of Christ that we can finally come together.

So why should Christians not ignore #BlackLivesMatter or the crises erupting in our nation? Because our fellow brothers and sisters are hurting too. When one part of the body is hurting doesn’t the whole body feel the pain?

“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.” 1 Corinthians 12:26 NIV

Even if we do not understand our brother’s and sister’s pain, we should not ignore it or turn a blind eye to the problem. We should be praying. We should be coming together. We as Christians should be the front runners against injustice. During the Civil Rights Movement, the church was the head of the movement. People met at the church to plan how to fight injustice in their neighborhoods. But why are so many churches silent now?

It is not a black vs. white issue but a right vs. wrong issue. I should not have to worry about my family members being stopped just for appearing like a suspect on the news or because they just seem suspicious. I don’t want to see a family member of mine becoming a hashtag on social media due to injustice. I don’t want to see hatred towards law enforcement due to a few bad apples in the bunch. I am not saying that everyone should join the Black Lives Matter organization, but at least try understand the message behind it and why so many of us are upset and on our knees praying even harder like never before. It is also not being opposed to or hating law enforcement but against the injustice placed upon many innocent people every day.

But we can counterattack all of the hate, unforgiveness, and anger with love!

We can show acts of love and kindness with our brothers and sisters in Christ and with the world. We as the church shouldn’t be the last ones responding to the times or look to the world to make a response. We need to be the ones changing the climate and be examples of what to do during tragedies. Even when our nation seems divided as ever, especially in the church, I know that God can restore us. Even when it seems that no one is listening to your cries, I know God hears (Psalm 34:17).

So instead of just picking sides or arguing whether Black Lives Matter or not, let us stand together like never before. Let’s pray. Pray for those in law enforcement, pray for those whose lost their loved ones through violence, pray for our nation. And again, we shouldn’t have to wait when tragedy hits to pray but the Bible tells us to pray without ceasing. I know many people are saying that we should do more than just pray, however, prayer can do more than what our words can do. Sometimes our actions are not enough because we are attempting to work miracles in our own strength. But when we allow God to work through us, so much can happen, yet that can only happen through prayer! So let us love like never before because that is what Jesus would want us to do.

“16 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. 17 If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? 18 Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

1 John 3:16-18 NIV



When Tragedy Hits

6359886843103041521281763892_cover3.jpgSo much is going on in our world today that, sadly, it almost seems normal when tragedy hits. We see so much on the news that it feels terrifying to even leave the house not knowing what will happen next. In recent events, the murder of young men in the hands of police, the Christina Grimm murder, the Orlando and Dallas shootings has caused many to question life.  It is all shocking and unsettling at the same time. So many people are losing their lives in moments. So many families losing their loved ones in just a few days. So many lives lost. So many hurt and confused.

In these times of tragedies, we have to remember that as a body of Christ these are the perfect opportunities to show the light in the midst of so much darkness. Only God during these times can strengthen us and pull us back together when we feel torn apart. It also reminds us that life is truly like a vapor.

We also need to remember to not just pray for tragedies in our nation, but everyone across the world who are hurting from their own tragedies. Not every shooting is posted on the news and not everyone’s pain is posted on social media. I know  you may feel helpless by “just”praying, but prayer is the best thing we ever do in times like these especially with so many people are dying without knowing the Lord. Yet we shouldn’t wait when disaster hits to begin turning and praying to God. He is always there and patiently waiting for us to come to Him. I still believe that despite all of the heartache and pain in our world today that God is still a comforter and will bring those who are hurting through as it says in 2 Corinthians 1:2-4 NASB.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

Reblog: How to Respond to People Who Criticize You for Waiting Until Marriage

I just read this post from Project Inspired, a great Christian website for young women, and I just had to share this post! Since I started this #TrueLoveWaitsPledge Campaign, I know many people will try to criticize your decision to wait. I was even told that waiting until marriage was unrealistic. However, I know so many people who are waiting and so can you! So be encouraged


Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Written by Kytia Lamour
Posted on July 8, 2015 at 12:00 pm
I waited until I was married to have sex. In fact, I wore a purity ring for years that was eventually replaced by my engagement ring because I was sure that decision was the right one for me. It’s important to make this choice for yourself and not judge other people who haven’t done the same. I definitely had the desire to be intimate, as any young woman with a pulse might, so I was constantly asked why I was saving my virginity for my future husband.

This subject is a very personal one, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for whatever you choose to do. However, if you feel the need to respond, it’s best to do it with the spotlight on yourself and your personal convictions instead of simply saying “Everyone should do this because God wants us to.” Keeping God’s commands is very important, but it’s also good to know and share the benefits of abiding by His word.
The next time someone raises an eyebrow at your moral compass and offers these remarks, consider responding in the following ways.

“It’s not a big deal.” It most definitely is a big deal. There are plenty of people who will fall into one-night stands and follow their body’s desires, but not many of them will tell you that you are giving a piece of yourself to anyone you are intimate with. You might want to save those pieces for your future spouse so that he will have that prize for himself.
“You’re missing out on a lot of great guys you could be with.” This should be obvious, but most of us don’t think about it until it’s too late. Not everyone is honest or knowledgeable about possible STDs they are carrying. Having multiple partners increases your risks of contracting something you may end up suffering with for the rest of your life, and you could be putting your future spouse at risk without even knowing it.

“Don’t you think you’re being old-fashioned?” Times change, but God’s values never will. He has asked us to keep our marriage bed undefiled, and that request doesn’t come with an expiration date. Being “old-fashioned” isn’t always a bad thing, and there are reasons why generations before us held onto certain traditions and had long-lasting marriages because of it.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

“You already know he’s the one you’re going to marry, so there’s no need to wait.” Whoever you decide to have a relationship with should respect your decision, and that includes “The One.” If a guy pursues you in hopes of getting you into his bed without marrying you, his motives are not in the right place and he is not worthy of your time.

“What if you get married and find out you’re terrible in bed?” I’ve always been from the school of thought that if God will bring you a husband, He will make sure that you are compatible in every way. Your sex life is something you both will have to work at whether or not you are a virgin, so there’s no need to worry unnecessarily about a lack of fulfillment in the bedroom.
It is possible to start a new life of abstinence if you’ve already had sex before marriage. God does not condemn those who have, and it’s never too late to start a clean slate and honor your body in a way that is pleasing to the Lord.
Do you think it’s important to wait for marriage? How do you face criticism for the choice that you’ve made?

So what do you think of this post?

Unfulfilled now Filled

Our society is obsessed with physical appearances that it seems to consume our everyday lives from the latest weight loss diet and to makeovers but all of that still leaves many so empty inside. It is an emptiness that haunts so many people each day, but yet we tend to put on a facade to make it seem as if everything is okay.

unknownWhen I am on social media, I find it so interesting how we attempt to put forth the best show for the world to see, but there is so much more going on behind the scenes. I never knew how so many people are incomplete and undone on the inside, yet the outward appearance is so made up to make it seem that everything is fine.

And that was me.

I never wanted others to know what I truly felt. Everyone always thought I was a happy and nice girl when inwardly I felt like a monster. I never let anyone come in because I did not want anyone to see the real me. I strived so hard to be perfect but it felt that every move I made would take me four steps backward. The problem was I was trying to fix myself on my own but I was just making a huge mess. I struggled for the longest with my self-esteem, using my accomplishments as a shield for my insecurities. I was always trying to be what I thought others wanted me, to think the way society wanted me to think instead of being who God made me to be.

It wasn’t until I had to face myself and finally stopped trying to please everyone else besides God. I had to go to God with my struggles and it was not until then did I finally find peace, comfort, and received real deliverance.

imagesMy cry over and over was that God would just make me over. I did not want to be what society wanted me to be. I did not want to be who I thought I should be. I wanted to really be a new creature in Christ where all things would have passed away. I just wanted God to strip everything that was not like Him and to put on more of His attributes. Until I stopped trying to go my own way and finally completely surrendered to God did I find that God was the only one who could fill the empty void in me. No more feelings of unworthiness or feeling unloved because I know where my source comes from now. I am not saying that I don’t have days when those thoughts may come to my mind, but now I don’t have to face them alone anymore. Instead, I can just go straight to my loving Father and know that He has me wrapped in His arms.
Just like the woman at the well in the Bible (John chapter 4), she was looking for something to fill the void inside of her only to find out that Jesus was the only One who could satisfy her longing for love and acceptance. She looked in all of the wrong places only to find out that man was not enough. Our hearts were created by God and were only made to be filled by Him. Food, people, drugs, money, relationships, etc. will never be enough. I love what Jesus says to the woman at the well when He meets her, saying

But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. (John 4: 14)

That was what I was also missing in my life. I desperately needed God to fill my life. Yes, I was already a Christian but I did not allow God to fully fill my life. It seemed that I held part of myself in reserve, but I was only keeping myself back from being fulfilled. I was like Israel in Jeremiah 2:13, “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”

But I don’t have to be that way anymore and neither do you. Just admit to God that you need Him, ask Him to fill you up, and surrender your doubts and your fears to God and allow God to fill your heart.

I had to learn that having God to fill you should be continuous, not just a one-time prayer. There are days where you will feel drained ororiginal
that the weight of the world is on your shoulders. There will be  other times when the sun is shining bright and that you will feel that everything is fine. But no matter whether you are going through a sunny or dark season in your life, you will always need God. David says it best in Psalms 63:1

“You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you; I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water.” Psalm 63:1 (NIV)